Capri asked me today why people don’t live forever. I answered with a question: if you lived forever would you enjoy everyday knowing that there are unlimited days to follow? Of course she looked confused and said that everyone should still live forever.
Life needs to be cherished, I always hear “live each day to its fullest” but that’s pretty hard to do, some days all you want to do is stay in bed all day and each chocolate. To spend a day in bed every blue moon is fine but make sure you’re not coaxing through life in a daydream.
I am 35 and Carl is 42 (I think) and it only feels like yesterday I was celebrating the end of high school and excited at future prospects. I had planned on studying film production at university and lucky for me my top uni choices didn’t accept me. Lucky? I’m feeling pretty lucky at the moment, this event may have pushed my life down a separate path. A path full of debt and limited self discovery. I’m not really into film production anymore, I was at 17 and felt like I had to pick a career. So far in my life I’d say I’m pleased with what I’ve done. I’m not a scholar with a degree behind my name, and good for you if you do, it just wasn’t in my cards. I have seen a small part of the world, met my dream man and had 3 wonderful kids, but I don’t feel like I’m done yet.
I find most folks follow a generic road map to life not quite aware that there are other options out there, maybe we all get sucked into the system at an early age and I just happened to stubble out of it.
In the norm you make grand plans for retirement, spend 40+ years of your life saving pennies and building dreams. I’m not saying that working hard is useless or not rewarding just make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. I don’t want to spend my youth (well maybe I’m not so young anymore) looking forward to my future. The time in your life when you feel most alive and appreciative of the world is when you need to get out and eat it up, not vise versa. Don’t find yourself retired and tired. Live below your means and enjoy moments, not things. Don’t work for that fancy car, large house and 20 pairs of shoes that you told yourself that you needed. Work because you love it.
We worked hard up until 4 years ago, we were excited to get out of bed every morning and jam pilings in the ground but when that it began to feel more like work and less like a life we decided to sell up. We downsized everything and learned to live simpler – constant work in progress. Simpler = Cheaper. We still have a couple of rental properties we bought back in our old life, they feed and cloth us. We plan on picking up odd jobs here and there to help with rainy days but we won’t be married to the job like before. There is also planning for retirement, those years where your body screams for some extra love. Live healthy, happy lives now in order to enjoy the later years in life. We want to be old in our twin rocking chairs; with sore knees, bad backs, poor eyesight and hearts full of satisfaction.
This post of randomness is dedicated to my wonderful husband who slipped the little red pill in my beer one night. You are never predictable. Strong, yet mushy at the same time. You are the greatest husband, dad and son that ever walked the Earth. I love you.